Halloween should be on a Saturday

What could be scarier in a post about Halloween than a picture of the blue screen of death?

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As you can see from this picture, my computer, like HAL 9000, couldn’t let me post about changing Halloween. I was going to write about how we can make Easter always on a Sunday and Thanksgiving always on a Thursday so why not Halloween on a Saturday?

I was going to go on to write about how the kids trick or treating on a Tuesday or even a Sunday is just tough.  School the next day. Work the next day.  I mean (I was going to write), how can I be expected to come home, get the beer on ice, start the campfire, get the kids into their costumes, drink the beer, find the trick or treat bags, etc… on a Tuesday. Or a Monday.

Then I was going to tie it into other drinking holidays.  Like Memorial Day (why on a Monday? I was going to ask.)  And what’s with Superbowl “Sunday”?  The biggest party day of the year and everyone is expected to work the next day.  I was planning to write that St. Patrick’s Day, under no circumstances should ever be on a Sunday or Monday.

My eloquent, convincing rant, though, must end up on the heap of Windows XP garbage history.  Because my HAL 9000 decided to crash just as I was starting.

Sorry about that.

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You hate Walmart. Or do you?

Admit it. You hate Walmart. Do you want to know why you hate Walmart? Oh I know you think you know. Chinese made products, unfair labor practices, no healthcare for employees. I understand why you think you hate Walmart. But that’s not why you hate Walmart.
You know why you hate Walmart?
I’ll tell you. But first let me tell you how I know you that it’s not really Walmart that you hate. Walmart is just a symbol. Because everything at Target is made in China. Everything everywhere you shop is made in China. Because Kroger and Kohls and Macy’s don’t pay any better than Walmart. Denny’s doesn’t have a great health plan either. But you don’t protest them do you? You don’t make Facebook pages attacking them do you?
Here’s what you really hate. You hate that someone can make it big. Without extra help. Without a leg up. You hate that someone has done what no government on earth has accomplished. Jobs for millions. Inexpensive food, medicine, clothing for countless rural and inner city poor. Walmart has accomplished what your precious government programs have failed to even approach: abundance for the masses. The poor can have the latest fashion, the most abundant food, the latest advances in healthcare and medicine and electronics. Not because of government. In spite of government.
Yes, you hate the idea of Walmart. But not because Walmart has failed. Rather because Walmart has succeeded where government has failed.

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The Kid is Back – in more ways than one

I’m back.  To get to 90 posts in 90 days, I’ll have to double up on a few days. Or quadruple up on one.  Anyway, I had a very good reason for not posting the last three days.  One day, I want each of you to experience the weekend as I have.  Unless you’ve been there, you will not yet understand.  And until then, I’m not tellin’…

Anyway, here are a few random thoughts on this snowy spring day:

Interesting Facebook discussion about the best route to the other side of a problem being through it.  A friend gave a great counter-example of a tunnel through a mountain not always being the best solution – maybe routing the road around the mountain would be better.  My response is that maybe the mountain isn’t the problem.  Only when we confront the actual problems in our lives will we be able to even detect what “through” the problem means.  Step one is to identify the problem.  Then, the best route to the other side is straight damn through it.

Another random thought while I was doing dishes…  You might want to copy this one into your Facebook status… just be sure and properly attribute it to Leonid Marstakin…

“To take a stand, one does not need great numbers on his side. Nor does he need great courage.  To take a stand, one needs only to believe in the righteousness of his cause.”

Leonid Marstakin

And then there is this gem:

“Convincing a great many of the people, even a majority of the people, to agree, does not make one right.”

Leonid Marstakin

Post complete.  I will do a count tomorrow to see about getting back on track…

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Quotable quotes I thought of today

Thanks, Susan, for reminding me to write. “Sometimes it takes a nudge here and there to develop a new habit.”

“Hope is not a plan.”

Okay I said that one a long time ago. But it lead to the next one today…

“Hope is not a plan. But without hope, you can not lead.”

“Always be pessimistic when planning. Always be optimistic when leading.”

“It doesn’t matter in this process who does the work. We care about the code base. We’re agnostic about the developers. We may even be atheist about the developers.”

“I wasn’t throwing you under the bus. You were already under the bus. I was trying to drag you back out.”

And finally, I will leave you with this gem…

“What I said was accurate. What you heard me say was not. So, what I communicated was incorrect.”

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What a fascinating day!

“How fascinating!”

Benjamin Zander

Today was truly full of learning opportunities.  Unfortunately, it will be a long, long time before I know what all of the lessons were supposed to be – if I ever know.  Let us review…

The day started on a bright note.  A new and critical relationship on the project team was advanced in the right direction.  And I got to watch it happen simply because of a key question I asked and because I brought and created trust. Yay me!

That’s about it for the positive.  The next meeting saw a relationship take a step backwards.  There is a key project team technical person who is always late.  And it is never her fault.  I have struggled with this relationship.  It erupted yet again today.  How fascinating!  What was the lesson.  I have no idea.

Off to the Bureau of Motor Vehicles to title and register by new (to me) Benz!  One piece of paper caused a breakdown.  Well, I decided that the lack of one piece of paper was a fascinating reason to have a breakdown.  In the BMV. In front of everybody.  I didn’t feel better after the breakdown.  Why did I do it?  I have no idea.

The physical therapy was good.  But I got to find out that surgery is more likely than not if I want to resume by winter sports career and my dancing career.  Why did I injure my knee?  I have no idea.

There was good news and bad news related to an illness in the family.  Much stress at the home of my youth.  I’m not sure what to do, if anything.  I’m not sure what I’m supposed to learn from the whole situation, if anything.

I wonder what the rest of the week and this weekend will bring.  With some travel, some quality time with the kiddos, Daddy-Daughter Date Night Dance, and more, I have no doubt it will be fascinating.

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Not all is as it seems

What if I told you that every single person that crossed your path today is leading a double life?  Or a triple life?

Think about your own life.  Are you the same person at work who you are at home?  I know there have been days in my career when people who “know me best” would not have recognized the person I was being that day.

Person 1
Who you really are lives within your “soul”.  I put soul in quotes because maybe it’s your heart. Or maybe it’s your mind’s eye.  Or the id.  Or whatever you call it.  There is a real person in there and you know that person.  It is who you are when you are at your best – maybe loving, maybe caring, powerful.  Generous and forgiving.  You know who you are

Person 2
The other extreme.  This is how you seem to be when you are stressed.  When the kids are screaming.  When the meeting is going south.  You are frustrated, angry, selfish, insecure.  This is when you are at your worst.  Good news – this is not really you.  These things are the armor and the weight of the armor you have acquired over the years.  These ways of being protect you from your greatest fears.  Other good news – you get to take that armor off if you want.

Person 3
Person 3 is somewhere in the middle.  This is who I was at work most of the time.  I’d learned to control the anger and frustration.  I’d learned techniques for managing people.  I was generally happy when things were going well.  Not so happy when they weren’t.  Person 4 through Person 100 are variations on Person 3.

Recognize yourself in any of these people?  Did you think you were the only one who were multiple people?  Well, you’re not.  In fact all those people you experienced today?  There were a lot more of them than you thought…

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First Chapter-ness. Are you hooked? Or bored?

I ran across this tonight while browsing through some old writing, looking for inspiration.  Call it cheating if you want, but I’m going to copy it in as my post for tonight.

Quick survey:  If this were the first chapter of a book would you want to read Chapter 2?  In other words, does it have a little something I like to call, “First Chapter-ness”?

The Vision

by Steven A. Vinson

CHAPTER 1

Fred sat at the bar staring into space.  He was on his fourth scotch, getting drunk, and he still was scared to death.

“Another Dewar’s, Pal?”

“Sure,” said Fred.

“Tell me, friend,” he said to the bartender.  “ Have you ever had the opportunity of a life time dropped in your lap, but you knew you would fuck it up if you took it?”

The bartender slid him another Dewar’s rocks and leaned on the bar.  He said, “Pal, I own this bar.  When my boss offered to sell it to me, I puked on his shoes.  He said take a day to figure it out.  I puked my guts out all that night.  I said yes the next day and haven’t looked back.  Fifteen years and I haven’t looked back.”

Fred said, “I wish I had your guts.  I run the corn processing plant on Highway 31 –”

“Yeah? That you?  Did you have anything to do with that explosion last year?”

“I wasn’t even there that night.  I mean, I feel like shit that those guys died but accidents like that happen all the time.  Why, that plant in Decatur, Illinois had an explosion and –”

“So, I’ll take that as a ‘no’.”

“What do you mean?”

“You said you didn’t have anything to do with those guys dying.”

Fred thought for a second.  Sipped his Dewar’s.  “Well, no.  I didn’t say that exactly.  But, you know, I wasn’t even on site that day.”

The bartender went back to washing glasses.  He said, “I get it, man.  You had no responsibility for those guys.  Or their families.”

Fred put his glass down hard and said, “Now wait just a damn minute.  What the hell are you accusing me of?”

The bartender put down his towel and walked back to Fred.  “Look, pal.  You’re the plant manager, right?  That’s what you said.”

“So?”

“So, what happens at that plant – good or bad – is your responsibility.  If you don’t get that –”

“Shut the hell up and serve me drinks.  I didn’t come here to be lectured by a bartender.”

The bartender straightened up and said, “whoa, buddy. I’m just saying.”

“Saying what? That I had something to do with that explosion? That it was my fault or something?”

“Well, I’m just saying –”

Fred  jumped up from his stool.  “What if I broke one of your pool cues?” He kicked his stool to the floor and headed toward the rack of cue sticks behind the pool table.  “Would that be your fault?  I mean, it is your bar.”

Fred grabbed one of the cues, raised it over his head with both hands.

The bartender jumped over the bar and ran at Fred just as he was swinging the stick down toward the floor.  The cue struck the bartender’s shoulder, splintering as hit made contact with his collar bone.

“Ah! Shit! You fucking crazy drunk bastard,” shouted the bartender in pain.  “You’re outa here!”

“Why? It’s your bar! Must be your fault!” Fred took a swing at the bartender.  He missed wildly.  The bartender grabbed his wrist.

“Alright, buddy, you’re getting in a cab.”

“Just like I killed those guys, right?  You broke that stick, not me! You cracked your shoulder, not me! Right?  That’s what you said.  Just like I killed those guys!”

“Calm down, pal.” The bartender had Fred in a half nelson.

“Like it’s my fault all those projects are late.  Over budget.  What the hell do they want from me?”

Fred slumped to his knees and started crying.  The bartender let go of his arm and took a step back.  Still ready, just in case.

“If I fuck up this next project They’re going to shut the plant down  All those jobs.  Gone.  All those families.  This town.  What if there’s another accident?  How can it all be my fault?

“Is it my fault my wife’s probably sleeping around?  I work my ass off.  That’s why I’m not home.  And, she thanks me by fucking her therapist?

“If the plant closes that’s it.  I know she’ll leave me.

“How is any of this my fault?”

Fred’s tear streaked face was in his hands.  The bartender placed a hand on his shoulder and said, “I don’t know, pal.  I don’t know.”

A voice from the back of the bar room said, “It’s not his fault.”

A man stepped out of the shadows.  Glass of beer in his hand.  “It’s not your fault. But it is all your responsibility.”

Fred stood up slowly, suddenly embarrassed in front of this stranger.  The bartender had a peculiar look on his face.

The stranger said, “You want to get that project done? On time. Under budget.  You want to save all those jobs and create more jobs?  You want to keep your people safe?  You want to hang on to that lovely wife of yours, Fred?”

“Who the hell are you?”  Fred’s embarrassment turned to defensive anger.  “How do you know my name? You don’t talk about my wife.”

The stranger sat in one of the bar chairs.  “It doesn’t matter who I am. What matters, is do you know who you are?”

“This is bullshit.  Go back to your own damn business.”

“Oh, but this is my business,” said the stranger.  “You will find that out soon enough.  For now, if you want all these things, you need to decide right now.  You are everything you need to be in order to do and have everything you want.  And I can support you.”

“I don’t even know you.  You’re just some dude at a bar.”

“Fair enough.  Let’s have a drink and get to know each other.  Or my friend here can call the cops and I can tell them how you tried to kill him.”

“Now, wait just a damn minute, you can’t –”

“I can.  But I won’t.  Not if you just agree to have a drink with me.”

The bartender said, “I think our Plant Manager friend has had enough to drink for tonight.  Both of you can come back tomorrow.  First round’s on me.”

Fred glared at the bartender.

“Or, I can call the cops,”  said the bartender.

Fred looked like he was going to vomit.  Or start breaking more pool cues.

“Just one drink, Fred.  What’ve you got to lose?”

Fred sat down hard.  He crushed his palms into his eye sockets, let out a long sigh, and said, “Fine.  One drink.  But you’d better have something good for me or I might break the next cue on your head.”

The bartender was not amused, “Watch it, Chuck Norris.  Go home.  Sleep this one off.  Tomorrow night your life starts to change.”

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One hundred eighty five guys named Mike walk into a bar.  The bartender says, “Sláinte!” One of the guys named Mike says, “Gesundheit!”

185 guys named Mike walk into a bar. One of them orders red wine.  The other 184 hit on him.

185 guys named Mike walk into a bar with their wives and start hitting on other women.  Cuz it’s open Mike night!

185 guys named Mike walk into a bar called Sláinte.  They all hit on the red-headed 42 year old in the corner.  She laughs at them because they all are drinking red wine.

90 guys named Mike walk into a bar.  10 walk back out.  That leave’s 80 more to go!!

Give me a break! I warned you that some of them would suck!

p.s. that was a brief game of 185 – an improv game I learned at comedysportz

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The old teacher and the new

The old fisherman watched out his window as the young girl cast from the pier.  His home was twenty steps from the pier by the sea.  Every day for as long as he could remember he walked those twenty steps and he cast his line.  Every day he caught fish.  He had taught more young people to fish than he could remember.  But for two seasons now he had not taught anyone to fish.  He had not caught fish himself for one season.  And now on this foggy morning he was watching a young girl catch fish from the sea that had forsaken him.

He walked the twenty steps again.

“How is the fishing this morning, child?”

“Not good.  The fish are so small.”

He eyed the eight small fish in the girl’s pail.  “Eight small fish are better than no large fish.”

The old man cast his line.

The girl looked up at the old man.  “Will you teach me to fish?”

“Young child.  It has been many mornings since I’ve taught anyone to fish.  I am not sure the sea has any fish left for me.  Why would you have me teach you?”

The girl said nothing.  She pulled in her line. Removed the fish. Put it in her pail.  Cast her line.

“Perhaps I will teach you.  Tomorrow.”

He pulled in his line and walked back to his home.  The girl pulled in her line and left with her fish.

Many days passed.  The girl continued to catch fish while the old man did not.  The sea favored her and mocked the old man.  He stopped taking those twenty steps altogether one day.  Why bother?

The next day, the girl finished her fishing and walked up the path to the old fisherman’s home.  “I want to catch bigger fish.  Will you teach me?”

He stood and walked to his porch.  Looking up and down the shore, he could see other children fishing.  Other old men were in their old homes not fishing.

“Very well, child. I shall do my best.”

Again, many mornings passed.  This time, though, the old man took the twenty steps every morning to meet the girl.  He showed her how to properly tie her line to the caster.  He watched her cast and showed her the places to cast.  The old places where he used to catch fish.  She continued to catch fish as before.  Only now she began to learn how many small fish were better than no large fish.  She was excited.

Something inside the old fisherman was beginning to stir.

One morning the old man rose early and walked the twenty steps.  He cast his line and waited.

And waited.

A gentle voice behind him.  “How much longer do you wish to catch no fish?”

He turned and saw the girl holding a large fish.  “Where did you catch that?”

“Follow me,” she said.

He followed her.  Twenty steps to the next pier.  She cast.  He cast in the same place.  His line was not in the water five minutes when…

He pulled in his line and with it a large fish.  He was stunned.  “The sea, it…”

“The sea loves you.  It has always loved you.  It will always love you.”

The fisherman took his fish home and cooked it for lunch.  The girl shared it with him.  They talked all afternoon.

The next day, the old man walked the twenty steps but instead of casting his line he just sat on the pier and breathed with the sea.  He breathed and he sang and he listened.  He smelled and he felt and he heard the sea as he had not in many mornings.

The girl had taught him to love the sea again.

He looked to his left and saw the girl with another child, teaching her to fish.  And there was another old fisherman with the two children.  And he was catching fish.

For many mornings after that, the fisherman walked the twenty steps to the sea.  He caught fish and he taught others to catch fish.  And many mornings the girl would return with a friend from the village.  Together they would teach fishing.

The two never stopped learning about fishing.  And they never stopped teaching others to fish.

The student had become the teacher. And the teacher had fallen back in love with the sea.

The fishergirl looked lovingly at the fisherman.  “How many is that?”

The fisherman grinned.  “That’s 9.”

“How many more until it’s a habit?”

“81, ya’ll!”

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Mt. Everest. Apples. Dentist. Eine kleine scene set up…

“Ricky, come back here.  I said, no. This is Nepal, not Manhattan.  You can not leave this hotel.  You may be thirteen but I’m still in charge when your mom and dad are gone.”

“Give it a rest already, Uncle Dave. You’re only three years older. It’s not like you can stop me. Now, I’m taking this diamond to the shop to see what I can get for it.”  Ricky dangled the leather pouch tauntingly at Dave.

Dave followed Rickie through the lobby and out onto the busy Nepalese street.

“Fine, Rickie.  I’m coming with you.  That time in Fiji, I was stuck in the room while you gallivanted all over the island.  And I think I caught more grief than you did.  This time, I’m at least going to have some fun to make it worth the trouble.”

Ricky was already climbing on a bus.  “Come on Dave!  Get in if you’re coming!”

They tossed a few coins into the till and plopped down next to an ancient looking dude.

“Hey Pops,” said Ricky.  The old man grinned and reached into his bag.

Three kids sitting across from them glared at Dave and Ricky disapprovingly.  Ricky fingered the leather pouch nervously.

The old man pulled an apple out of his bag and took a giant bite.  He screamed in pain and three bloody teeth fell onto the floor.

“Oh my god!” said Dave.  Blood was running from the man’s mouth.  He fell on his knees to the floor grabbing at his mouth and chanting something vaguely religious.

“Dentist. um. Tooth doctor!” Ricky yelled at the Driver.

“Easy kid, I’m from Brooklyn.  There’s a dentist at the next stop.”

 The old man was moaning and grabbing at his teeth on the floor.  Dave and Ricky helped the him off at the next stop.  He was grabbing and moaning something in Nepalese to the local kids.  They shrugged and yelled back at him.

Once they were off, Ricky held the old man steady while Dave looked for the dentist’s office.  The old dude swooned and fell to the ground.  “Shit, shit, shit.” Dave, hurry up.

As the bus began to pull away, the old man grinned widely and jumped up.  In several quick strides he was on the bus.  The doors closed and the bus sped away.

“Well that was weird.  Oh well, I saw a gem shop over there.  Come on Ricky, let’s take your stupid diamond in to have it checked out.”

Ricky looked around, patted his pockets, then panicked.  “Holy hell! I don’t have it. Do you have it? I don’t have it.  I had it.  It was in the leather pouch! Oh crap I left it on the bus! That old dude ripped us off!”

Dave slumped down onto the curb.  “Oh, man.  I am in so much trouble.”

That was based on the three words in the title.  Constance was kind enough to make the suggestions.  That’s 8 with 82 to go, ya’ll!

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